Some good motivational self help books are a must have for any one on this journey of self love. I have recently been immersed in two books that came highly recommend. One was given as a gift from a friend ( I think he was hinting at something) and the other I’ve been hearing about from some of my favorite Bloggers and YouTubers.
First, The Five Love Languages (singles edition) by Gary Chapman
I don’t want to give away too much of either of these books in case someone reading this hasn’t read and plans to read these. General knowledge of this particular book, the author theorizes that there are 5 ways that humans express and receive love.
- words of affirmation
- receiving gifts
- acts of service
- physical touch
- quality time
While I can agree with a lot of the author’s points and his theories concerning these expressions of love. I believe that the book leaves a kind of blank space for anyone, similar to the way I feel, who doesn’t necessarily express or receive love in either language. Or, people who express and receive love in all, or a combination of these languages. I just felt that there was a lot left unsaid in the book. At times the author comes across as pushy, in my opinion, but I did enjoy the book and can say there are some good lessons. I can see this helping me improve my relationships with others as I try to identify their love language and act accordingly. As with most things in life take the meat and leave the bones, or in my case take the leaves and leave the stems 🙂
Next, You are a Badass by Jen Sincero
Honestly, I was disappointed 🙁 This is not to discourage anyone from purchasing this book. But, I just felt like the book lacked depth and real meaning. The author does a good job of building up the readers excitement but, in my opinion, fails on her delivery. There is also a sense of if it’s not working for you, you’re doing it wrong. I tend to avoid subscribing to that philosophy in relation to self help (I’ll expound upon this in future posts).
I do believe that there are several good points in the book, as I am a firm believer in the Law of Attraction, and the awesomeness of, When you desire something the Universe Conspires to Make it Happen. I will also say that this book is entertainingly funny but I feel it missed the mark on self help.
Have you read either of these books? What are your thoughts on them? Jump in the comments and let me know.
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I’ve heard great things about the Badass book. I haven’t read it yet but it is on my list. I read love languages. My issue with it is that communication is a two way street so I feel like books like this are meant to be read by all parties involved. Sure we can only change ourselves but I think these theories work better when all parties are invested.
Totally agree with you Kita! I believe there is a couples version of the love languages book. Thanks for reading!
I read the Love Languages for married folk. That one was so good. I heard of the other book but have not read it.
I haven’t read either book. I did read the original love language book and I really learned a lot about myself and my spouse. It has definitely helped in that department.